Hey, hey y’all! Moms, are wondering how to be the perfect mother? Are you always searching for ways to perfect something about your mothering skills? Always on Pinterest looking for something pertaining to motherhood? Well, guess what mama? You can stop looking and searching for perfection because there is no such thing. There is no such thing as the perfect mother! Women in general deal with a lot on a daily. But being a mom is a whole different level and we deal with twice as much! We have to deal with physical and emotional changes, post-partum depression (in some cases) and taking care of human beings!
I remember when I had my first born, I was that mom. Let me tell you, I researched everything making sure that my baby girl had everything possible. I wanted to make sure I was breastfeeding and nursing the right way. I made sure she used the best bottles, had the best blankets, I mean I did the absolute most. When you’re a first-time mother, you only want to do what’s best for your child so you tend to go overboard. I know I did and looking back it honestly wasn’t necessary. Now that I have a second kid, I am not as extra as I was before but I still try to do and get what I feel is best for my babies.
I’m not the perfect mother at all. I have my moments when I’m tired, frustrated, emotional and etc. There is so much that I want to do some much for my kids as a stay at home mother. There are opportunities and places I would love for my kids. But I feel like I’m not doing enough or social media makes me feel like I’m not worthy of those opportunities. Despite the negatives, I am a better person because of my kids! I am a better and loving human being because of them. They have shown me another side of LOVE that is unexplainable. From that, it makes me strive to be better, work harder and love unconditionally.
I wanted to share this post with you all because I know how hard we can be on ourselves as moms. We strive to be perfect mothers because we’re held to this standard that we’re supposed to be according to society. Or, there are moms on social media that showcase motherhood like it is flawless and easy. They make it seem like they wake up every morning with perfect hair, face beat and their kids are perfect. Let me be the first to tell you it is not easy and every day I don’t have time to do my hair, shave my legs and etc. There are times when I don’t eat breakfast until 11am.
We tend to drive ourselves crazy or stress about our abilities as moms. We have to understand that we were built for this! This is why we were made to carry them and raise them. Motherhood is a magical power that God blessed women with that no one else would understand unless you were in this predicament. Unless you’re a mom, you wouldn’t understand this life because it ain’t for the faint at heart.
Now there are some things that moms that I do follow or watch online do that I wouldn’t even consider or don’t agree with. But at the end of the day, who am I to judge? That’s why I feel that we need to be more compassionate when it comes to how we treat and speak of other moms. We don’t know what they have or are going through behind closed doors. I’ve seen articles of mothers committing suicide because of postpartum depression or other issues. So we must be cautious about sharing our thoughts about postpartum bodies, breastfeeding versus formula and other unwanted advice to moms.
So to all of my moms out there, you are not perfect. Stop beating yourself. It IS NOT EASY! Those late nights, sleepless nights, diapers blowouts, raising your kids (alone or with your partner) whoo the list can go on, but trust that God wouldn’t have blessed you with his blessings (kids) if he knew you couldn’t handle it. There are motherhood devotions and prayer books if you need spiritual guidance on this journey. I love it and it has gotten me through some hard moments. If you would like a post about my favorite reads, I can do that for you! Read books about parenting.
Find what works for you and do your best! You got this. Remember, if you trying to be the perfect mother, just stop. You’ll never be the perfect mother. But YOU ARE perfect in the eyes of your kids and that’s enough evidence to know that you’re doing the best that you can! You got this, mama!